Last year, Cosmas married Carol and there were concerns by the social media public about their age. This morning we woke up to Facebook buzz about Enock Mwepu’s age and people are up in arms again with a lot of negative chatter; he is too Young to Marry they say…
By what criteria are they too young? How does one know when they are ready to marry?
Some of the most common ways to know are:
- Maturity – When you realize that the world does not revolve around you; and are able to empathize with the needs of others. Maturity does not always come with age, it’s deliberate.
- Content with the person you have chosen – Are you still searching for better or this is it for you?
- Self-knowledge – Know yourself, the general direction you would like your life to go and love yourself so you can still be an individual in your marriage.
- Financial Literacy (stability) – You have to be financially responsible to help build and maintain a home which comes with financial expenses.
As social media public, we are unable to fully assess these couples and make an absolute and objective conclusion about whether they are too young to marry or not, ready or not. Time will tell, but they do not need unnecessary pressure from us, life is about growth and learning through decision making. Only an undecisive individual forfeits progress for fear of failure.
These couples are to be commended in contrast to their older counterparts who are putting off marriage till much later in life, some well into their late 30s for some absurd reasons like fear of commitment. Yet they show commitment at their jobs and hobbies; football and betting to name a couple…
There are other conversations we could be engaging in as the Zambian public that directly impact us, like child marriages. According to UNICEF statistics from 2017; 5% of girls in Zambia are married by the age of 15 and 29% by the age of 18. World Vision, also states that Zambia has one of the highest child marriage rates in the world. Sexually transmitted infections and even HIV/AIDS and complications of early motherhood affect the social wellbeing of girls who go through child, early and forced marriage, denying them the right to enjoy their childhood. Let’s jump on this conversation and find ways we can help make a difference for many young people forced into marriage because of poverty, it affects the productivity and health of our country.
In conclusion, we hope when you think “Too Young to Marry”, it’s in line with Zambia’s child marriage problem and not a grown couple’s mutual decision to marry. At Eternal Jewellery, we celebrate love; to find genuine, reciprocal, lasting affection is a blessing and we wish both couples the very best in their unions.